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Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy – Timing is Everything

By Jamie Berger, Esq.

Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy Attorneys Morristown NJ

Marriage counseling can help couples improve their relationship by recognizing and resolving conflicts.

Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy Attorneys Morristown NJThe effectiveness of marriage counseling or couples therapy is directly related to the motivation level of both partners and timing. Regardless of sexual orientation or marital status, as a short-term form of psychotherapy, the specific treatment plan depends on the situation. Marriage counseling can help couples improve their relationship by recognizing and resolving conflicts, and making more thoughtful decisions about rebuilding and strengthening their relationship or to go their separate ways (i.e., separation, divorce, civil union dissolution, etc.).

Every relationship has its ups and downs, and conflict is an inevitable part of a committed, romantic relationship. Using their parents’ marriage as a template, many couples try to avoid conflict, only to have this bottling up of negative emotions backfire and possibly sabotage their relationship in ways they could not have imagined. Not making one’s partner aware of our emotions, doesn’t give them a chance to change their behavior and petty issues become indistinguishable from important ones.

Timing is Critical when it comes to Marriage Counseling

Timing is a critical element in whether marriage counseling works. Sadly, many couples wait years before seeking help or guidance in repairing their marriage. Years to build up resentment before they begin the vital work of learning more effective or alternate ways to resolve disputes or differences.

So, before you consider discussing divorce with your children, and stressing over possibly child custody, child support, alimony or spousal support or even dividing up assets, consider seeking professional guidance to help explore your relationship problems from a new perspective and learn new ways to recognize and resolve conflicts as a result of the tools provided by a trained and experienced family therapist.

Importance of Time when it comes to Marriage CounselingAt Jacobs Berger, LLC, we offer a more communicative and constructive approach than many other law firms when deciding these particularly difficult family issues like divorce and child custody. By building family life plans out of family law problems, we strive to help our clients more peaceably resolve issues, but we are also prepared to aggressively and tenaciously defend our client’s financial future when necessary. We have extensive experience working with clients across Randolph, Madison, Tewksbury, Morristown, and the greater Morris County area to effectively and fairly resolve their family matters while minimizing the stress normally associated with this process. Contact our firm today to discuss your unique needs and family law concerns regarding a confidential case assessment.

Premarital Couples and Relationship Counseling in Madison, NJ

Many couples enter marriage without a clear understanding of their differences, or things they currently do which could invite conflict later. Investing in premarital counseling can strengthen and safeguard a new marriage, and be an invaluable resource to achieve a better understanding of each other before diving into a deeper financial and emotional commitment. Though some soon-to-be-married couples may use this opportunity to discuss marital agreements and financial obligations, others may seek help with specific issues like:

  • communication problems
  • sexual difficulties
  • blending their respective families
  • child-rearing
  • anger
  • infidelity
  • substance abuse

How Do I Maximize the Benefits and Outcome of Couples Therapy?

Finding an experienced couples counselor that both partners trust and feel comfortable with is key. If partners then begin therapy with an openness to learn basic skills that lead to them becoming more aware and emotionally vulnerable to each other, positive outcomes are more likely to occur, and one person is less likely to drop out.

By learning to practice effective communication, toxic relationship patterns can be identified, partners can begin to rebuild trust and improve communication, or they can clarify why they need to separate, end the marriage, or seek legal counsel.

How Effective Is Marital Counseling or Couples Therapy?

How Effective Is Marital Counseling or Couples Therapy?According to the American Psychological Association, Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) to focus on a more secure attachment, is an approximately 75% effective and positive form of couples therapy. In high-stress clients (i.e., military couples, veterans with PTSD, parents of chronically ill children, and infertile couples), results were positive and substantial regardless of cultural groups.

However, couples in abusive emotional or physical relationships, where the destruction of property or substance abuse is an issue, should not expect improvement in therapy until the abusive behavior stops. Separate therapy is often recommended for each partner, in order to work towards self-control or to maintain safety, depending on the individual’s needs.

Although a trained marital therapist can help you learn the skills to more effectively communicate, a compassionate and experienced lawyer can help you navigate the legal waters of marital life.

Contact our Morristown Family Law Firm focused on supporting our clients through all stages of life

At The Law Office of Jacobs Berger, LLC our attorneys have extensive experience helping our clients to more peaceably, privately, inexpensively, and efficiently resolve their family issues through the mediation process in Randolph, Madison, Tewksbury, Morristown, and the greater Morris County area.

The unique approach of our firm focuses on helping clients to construct the building blocks for a successful legal, financial, and parental future, rather than tearing down all that you have worked to achieve through contentious, and often unnecessary, litigation.

Regardless of how you choose to resolve your family matters, we are ready to provide you with skilled legal guidance and representation throughout the process and ensure you and your family’s future.

To schedule a confidential case assessment with our firm today, please contact us online, or through our Morristown, NJ office at (973) 710-4366.

Contact Our Morristown Attorneys Today

At Jacobs Berger, our attorneys are experienced in protecting our clients across Madison, Randolph, Tewksbury, Morristown, and the greater Morris County area in all family law-related issues.

To schedule a strategic planning session with one of our experienced team members regarding your particular case, please contact us online or through our Morristown, NJ office at (973) 354-4506.